In a Bad Way

Things are not going very well for my husband and I right now. I brought up what I thought was a benign topic on the phone last week and he flipped out on me. We haven't spoken in a week and the only letter I received was a very nasty one. I worry about our future. If he won't even try and communicate with me, then what are we supposed to do? I know deep down we are stronger than this, but I don't know how to reach out to him. It seems like anything I say makes him angry. I keep wanting to write him a letter, but to be honest I am pissed too that he would act like this, so it isn't going to come out sounding like a very rational letter. That is why I just stay silent, but it is eating me up. This is my husband for goodness sakes! The man I married, the man who pledged to be by my side forever. I have honestly put a lot of things aside to do this journey as a prison wife. I made him a promise that I would stand by his side and I have for multiple years! Can he really be this cold? When he gets hurt, he just lashes out. I would love some advice on how to deal with this situation. Oh man. Every song on the radio makes me cry, I have been drinking a little too much, and my tears wet my pillow. This is breaking my heart.